The other day I stumbled upon this video on Youtube, it is by far not the only one in the department of elaborate marriage proposals but it is the latest I’ve watched.
While this made me smile, melt my stony heart, aww and all the things you do when you see someone propose to the love of their life, videos like this also make me uncomfortable. But why, you might ask. Isn’t this so romantic and beautiful and every woman’s dream?
Heck, I don’t know, I can only talk for myself here and elaborate very public marriage proposals are not my cup of tea. It is a terrific thing when one person ask another person to marry them, I am all for it but in the process of proposing, you make yourself vulnerable, and being vulnerable in front of a lot of people is a thing I tend to avoid.
Things like this show a lot of effort and that is probably a good sign. It shows the person actually cares and has thought about this step enough to put in so much work. Sure, you’re right there but in such a moment, I’d rather have something real than a rehearsed speech. Not saying that the proposer wouldn’t rehearse his or her proposal when it is not done in such a way but it feels more raw and honest to me.
This year, the theatre I spend most of my time at helped a guy (not one of us) propose to his girlfriend on stage. While everyone was all doe-eyed and happy about it, I cringed while listening to him (I couldn’t see a thing because everyone was trying to get a look at it from the side stage). It was just so cheesy and over the top that I couldn’t like it. Why go through so much trouble? Isn’t asking the question special enough? Why does it need to be veiled in this over-romantisised crap?
Naturally there are people who like this sort of things and to those I say, good for you, whatever floats you boat, do your thing but that isn’t me. Should I ever be in the market for getting proposed to, I want a simple and honest proposal, maybe while watching a sunset alone with my significant other. Don’t turn it into some kind of show, be real with me. I want you stumbling over your words. And to future significant other, should I ever be in the market of proposing, this is a glimpse of what to expect, I hope you’re okay with it.