Politics, Morals & Marriage Equality

Last week our highest federal court (the federal constitutional court) ruled in favour of same sex couples. At the moment it is not possible for a gay couple in a civil union to adopt a child equally. Only one partner can do so. The court ruled this unconstitutional, as it should be. This is just the latest ruling in a series of court decisions strengthening the rights of same sex couples in civil unions. Ugh, civil unions, why we cannot just call it marriage and be done with it, I will never understand. It’s about falling in love and committing to another person – a human being – not a gender, but our politicians don’t seem to understand as much.

The party which is in charge of my country is actually the one holding back giving same sex couples the same rights as heterosexual couples. Interestingly, this is the same party I have always sided with when it came to elections because all the others are not even real alternatives to me because of others reasons.

This party is actually consisting of two sub-parties, the CDU and CSU. The CSU is the bavarian part of the party and is led by Horst Seehofer and mostly conservative. Those conservatives are cock-blocking the inevitable change which is on the forefront in Germany as it is around the globe. After last weeks court decision the rest of the CDU is finally coming around and ready to grant couples in civil unions the same rights when it comes to tax cuts and health benefits as married couples have. Meanwhile Horst Seehofer is holding on to his mantra of ‘a family can only be between one man and one woman‘. Ugh.

Excuse me while I go vomit into the nearest trash can about his narrow-mindedness. Those words! Coming from an adulterer like him. In 2007 it became public knowledge that he was having an affair with a much younger woman after she gave birth to his ‘bastard’ child, while still being married to his second wife. Well hello there Mr. Infidelity, who the hell are you to speak about what makes a family and a marriage?! You can’t even be faithful to your own wife!

And while I’m on the topic of our highly moral politicians, let’s talk about our President, the highest politician of this nation and should-be example. He may not be doing much more than representing Germany as most of the power lies in the hands of our Chancellor, he is still the freaking President. He is a former pastor, living in sin for over 10 years now, while still being married to his wife. While all of this is happening, tolerated and accepted even, it is still considered unreasonable for gays and lesbians to be able to marry each other, be parents and file their taxes like every other federally recognised couple. This is just too much for me to comprehend.

Maybe I shouldn’t try to reason with politicians – apply moral standards to them. I understand that they are only humans but still, I expect a little bit more from the highest – most powerful – of them. We look up to them for guidance of this country, putting its fate in their hands, trusting them to not wreck us completely. Or this is at least what it should be like. However, I cannot take our President serious, not when so many politicians are playing judge and jury with other peoples lives. How can the words of an adulterer be considered when it comes to marriage and family? How can one love be considered worth less than another? Or am I simply expecting too much?

I don’t think I am though. I believe it should be ok for a kid to have two mommies or two daddies instead of being in a children’s home or the foster system. However I disapprove of a President of a country, welcoming foreign Heads of State with his mistress by his side instead of his lawfully wedded wife. I believe all love is equal. We are all equal. Loving someone of the same gender doesn’t make one a pervert. On the contrary, I think the more sincere love is showcased in this world the better all of us are for it.

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  • Y’know, I work on international recognition of sexual orientation and gender identity, including the right to marriage and adoption (and without stupid checks, psychological examinations, and other emotionally/financially draining clauses that are really human rights violations in my opinion) and oftentimes the biggest opposition to them comes from the morally suspect (and of course we’re the sinners who will rot in hell); but rather than get worked up about their hypocrisy and bullshit ideals; I realise that so much of their stance is political. It’s about the trade-off, it’s about power. It really isn’t about who gets to marry or who doesn’t get to adopt or what the legislature is around it, it is seriously about the repercussions of power and who loses/who gains more of it. It’s ugly and despicable, but that’s just how it is. So rather than hit them on their hypocrisy, it’s always been better and more effective (in my experience) to hit them where the power lies.

    • You’ve seen way more than I have and probably ever will on these kinds of things. And it IS just about power as such a small part of all our politicians is holding this nation back on this matter. Sure there may be more important issues but this one could have had an easy fix. Most of Germany’s population is actually in favour of marriage equality. Even almost all our parties are united on this front yet the one’s in power just decided they are not doing any more than the courts tell them to, especially not before this summer’s election. After which whomever will be in charge will most likely get another court decision strengthening the rights of gays.

      And I’d rather be a sinner than a hypocrite.