I was a Feminist first

Let me start this post by telling you that doing two plays in one day is hard work. Seriously! Today I spent nearly 10 hours at our theater for two performances. Even though looking at the happy and cheerful eyes of 840 kids is extremely rewarding but it is still hard work. Now I’m pretty beat and tired but I still have to prepare something for uni tomorrow. Only, I have to wind down first, which I do by eating candy, watching a movie I already know, oh, and blogging of course.

Now onto this post. Yesterday the faboulous Rishita of readmeanything started live tweeting her reading of 50 Shades of Grey (or better 50 Shades of Bullshit :D) and this female character called Ana Steele seems to be a total disgrace to every responsible and free willed woman. I haven’t read the series because I can’t bring myself to do it, these days my time is a bit too scarce to waste it on those three books when I could be reading something interesting instead. But I’ve read about the books and also held them in my hands just two days ago. I gave up after reading the first half page though because I couldn’t take it.

I believe that 50 Shades of Bullshit is pretty similar to the Twilight series, which I read in a masochistic attempt of wasting time during the height of it’s popularity. Back then I needed to see it with my own eyes to be able to asses it. 50 Shades is kinda like Twilight only with more sex, or at least that is my understanding of it.

I get why women read sex books, I do it too, of course, but there are good one’s out there and bad one’s. Like a decent storyline is a must! I love the kinda sci-fi-crime-novel-sex-book In Death series by Nora Roberts. This series is awesome because I love the Eve Dallas character so much. She is strong and very capable and doesn’t need a man to function, she only wants one. See, to me, this makes a big difference.

Bella was badly written and boring. She transformed herself into a half-dead to spend eternity with a man who glitters in the sunlight. Also, I could never get over the fact that Edward impregnated her. How can he even get an erection when there is no blood actively running through his veins or any other bodily fluid? I was told that this is fiction, and I understand that but I have never heard of a half human half vampire baby before. Sorry. Maybe I took to many science classes in school but it’s just the way my mind works.

Buffy would have staked Edward the second she had the chance to it. Now that is a strong female character I think every girl needs to watch. After all, she saves the world more than once during the run of the show. She did it with the help of her friends even if she had to go against the man she loves and that is a good thing.

Now I’ve rambled on for 500 words and you may ask yourself if this is ever going to end or come back to the title. Well, I hope so :D I grew up around two strong women, my mom and my granny. They taught me that you can be a decent human being without burying your believes because they don’t fit with those of a man or any partner. I learnt that financial independence is a very important thing, one should never be dependent, financial or otherwise! Of course, being in a relationship is a good thing, most of us want it, but you can go on living after it falls apart too.

A woman is as good as any man when it comes to working. Still most women are paid less for performing the same job as men. Such hypocrisy and inequality! I cringe when I think about how hard it was for women to get the right to vote and that it took some of them until the 80s after they were allowed to finally do so (yes, I’m talking about you, Switzerland)! There are probably still parts of the world where women are oppressed, where young girls are believed to be less worthy of an education than boys and that their voice doesn’t count but they do! We are all equal!

I was always very independent, I can stand up to any man and I am proud of it! But it pains me that even in 2012 women have to fight much harder for certain things than men do, that they are paid less. Books like 50 Shades of Grey and Twilight don’t help, they portray women in bad ways, especially to girls and young women when they should be looking up to strong female characters not weak ones who cannot resist a guy because he pulls out his dick and has their way with them.

Me being born a woman goes hand in hand with my being a feminist. I wear this label proudly, I always have even when it wasn’t meant to be a compliment I took it that way. So, I was a feminist before I was anything else because I was raised that way. Nobody told me I couldn’t do anything because I was a girl and that’s how it should be.

Let us all be independent and equal people! Tell your daughters and nieces that they can do whatever they set their minds to! That it is ok to speak up for their believes and opinions! Oh, and don’t raise your sons like machos who think women are their servants! Teach love and respect!

Thank you for reading my rambling nonsense, I needed to vent and this is my platform. See ya!

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  • I love buffy!! sorry I really needed t o get that out of the way 1st. so you are right I agree. I dont know if I would call myself a feminist as per ser because sometimes I like being spoiled and let my husband do all the hard work around the house, not because I cant do it but just because it saves me the hussle (selfish, I know). However I do understand what you are a saying and I totally agree. My husband is actually an awesome man and I am so proud of my mother in law for raising him the way she did because even though he comes from a culture where men are ment to be all macho, he is very loving and respectful and understand a lot of things that a lot of men don’t. Any way all that rumbling for me to say I love your post!! :D

    • Yay for Buffy. I don’t think there is anything wrong with letting your husband help you with stuff, it’s just easier and saves time I suppose :-) And I am glad you found someone who treats you with respect! Very important thing!!

      • I think Angel is pretty hot to by the way hahahahah specially in that scene when he comes back and he is just laying naken in the floor. Yeah I am very blessed!

        • Hahaha, haven’t seen Angel yet. I like that Cordelia is in it though so I will probably give it a watch sometime.

  • I detest Twatlight and 50 Shades of Bullshit for their terrible representations of women, the awful characterisation, and the truly dangerous ideas of gender normatisation/ideology that they propagate. The writing is awful as well, but that’s additional reasons to detest it :)

    However, I have to (as much as it pains me) give credit to 50 shades for a few things. 1) It openly speaks about and celebrates (to a certain extent, even if it’s sometimes problematic with its value judgements) a woman’s sexuality and right to pleasure. 2) It presents a sub-culture that is often viewed as deviant in a less.. harsh (?) way. It doesn’t do a good job of either of these things and has some serious, serious issues that I have huge problems with, but I can’t deny that it does, in some way (how ever terribly written that way is) challenge the current discussions around women’s sexuality, and alternate sexualities; and that’s supremely important. I’ve always believed that it’s one of Literature’s core jobs: to push the boundaries beyond the current frameworks.

    I’m going to go and continue making fun of this tripe to make myself feel better about having to ‘defend’ it.

    • This is what I get for not reading it myself, haha but you are right as to the fact that it is important to openly talk about sexuality. I still view Ana as a pretty weak character. She could have been better at what she does and still propagate an open discussion about sexuality in regard to women.
      Literature is a very important medium to raise discussions and I can only hope that the readers of 50 Shades take that away from this book, however I am not completely sure everyone does that.
      And why do the least well written books get so much attention?

      Nah, as long as you see a valuable thing in the books it’s ok to defend them I guess. However I still haven’t seen the good thing about Twilight :D

  • Thanks for your feminist ramblings. My 14yo is a feminist too, as am I. I may have to point her towards this blog of yours. ;)

    • Thanks. That post indeed was rambling. It’s good to know the next generation is already in gear.